Weird Occurrences

Have you ever walked into a room and you were instantly drawn to someone?  What happens when the situation is super weird? This has happened two times in my life!  The first time was super fascinating, but that is not the topic for today. The second time was also very crazy.  I walked into the situation with a very open mind. The first person I noticed was a woman that had a very similar look to me.  We looked like we could be sisters. This made me super curious to learn more about her life. When I met her husband, a few seconds later, he was my ideal type.  Now, don’t freak out! I didn’t hit on him or show any interest, but my mind was running with all the thoughts of, “Oh my gosh” and “not again.” Experiences like these make me so annoyed because I never find men that I am super attracted to any other time, but then all of a sudden, a man is dangled in front of my face that is totally not available.  This could have been my life, but no, I have to deal with dating and being alone most of the time. It could have been an easier life had I been given my person right away. Why do some people get so lucky to meet their person right away?

I have been told that I have a lot to learn in life and that a mate would just get in my way.  My issue is that I want children and it’s really difficult to make that happen without a mate. Anyway, back to the topic.  This is so frustrating to me!

I have ways of dealing with the frustration for this exact situation.  I do this by telling myself that there is probably something wrong with him that first impressions don’t show.  Also a huge technique is focusing on this person being married. I also tell myself that my person is still out there somewhere and he is probably 100% better than this person.

It was just really weird for me!  How many times do you meet someone that looks like you and she is also married to your ideal mate?  And then on top of that, they have everything that you would want in life.

This wasn’t the first time something like this happened.  There have been other times when I have felt a connection with a person that was not available.  I whined and complained for a bit, and then I moved on. What else can you do?

I know there are other options.  Like being a homewrecker! But for this girl, that is not an option, so I move on.  After All, Karma is a bitch!

Okay, so next weird situation that happened this year already.  I was at the bar for volleyball, minding my own business, when I went to grab a drink.  The next thing I know this girl was next to me asking me if I was the one that was engaged to {Insert exes name}.  I had never seen this girl before, so it was a bit awkward at first because I wasn’t sure if she was dating this person or not.  She explained how she knew him and then I felt more comfortable talking with her. She was a friend to my exes’ ex-wife. This girl went to high school with my ex and she was aware of all of his bad behaviors.  We talked for a bit and then went our separate ways, kind of. Later in the night, she came back to ask about my relationship status and then attempted to set me up with two guys that were part of her group. It wasn’t that I wasn’t interested in them, but they didn’t seem too motivated to get to know me, so I didn’t try talking to them.  Now, fast forward a bit to the next day. I start talking to a guy from volleyball that has been showing interest. He shares that he found out I was talking to his ex the night before. So, here is what happened. The referee at volleyball noticed a conversation occurring between this girl and me, and then texts this guy to share the news.  That girl just happened to be his ex! So weird!

I won’t be dating this guy, not because of this situation with his ex-girlfriend, but because our ethics, values and morals don’t match.  That and I would rather just be friends with him. There are parts of his stories that don’t add up and I think there may be too many differences in the way we think to make us compatible.  What are your thoughts on dating someone with the same political beliefs? Is this important to you?

It really is to me!  And it has become a deal breaker!  Especially today with all of the issues of people not doing the right thing when given the opportunity.