Cute Guy At The Bar = Not A Good Time

Let me run a scenario by you.  I see a cute guy at the bar during a night that I play volleyball, every Thursday.  I have noticed him many times, so I decided I would try talking to him more.  At this point, I had a good feeling that he was into me a bit. I didn’t need help starting up a conversation with this man, but my cousin took the initiative to try to help me out a bit by talking to him first.  My cousin didn’t help me out too much though because he shared with this man that I found him attractive, which was accurate, but in the grand scheme of things, didn’t mean much. Anyways, I talk with the individual, realize very quickly that I am not interested and then go about my night.  It seems that somewhere during that conversation, he got the idea that I was trying to date him. Saying someone is attractive = I want to date you!

You can find people attractive that you don’t want to date, right!?  Apparently, this guy is not aware of that though because it seems like he thinks I should be all about him now, because I had one conversation with him.

Anyways back to the story.  The following week he was there again, but I decided that I was going to go a bit crazy with drinks, so I was feeling good.  He wanted to have a conversation, which was fine because I was thinking it would be nice to make a new friend. I don’t remember this part much!  But apparently, my friend, who happens to be a male, came up to the patio and began talking to me. The man that I had met the week before stated that he was in mid-sentence when I flipped my body around to talk to my friend.  More than likely, I probably thought the man from last week was boring as heck, but of course I wouldn’t say that to him. Also, I don’t remember any of this, so he may have exaggerated the whole thing. Who knows!!

The next week, I was being friendly with the guy and acknowledged him.  You know, like any normal person would do! Nope, wrong move! He began telling me how rude I was to completely turn my body and that I must really be into my friend.  Then told me that my friend, we will call him Anthony because if we don’t call him something, it will get mighty confusing. Anthony, apparently, told him that I was totally crushing on him (Anthony).  This was all happening at a table with a bunch of people, some people I knew and some I didn’t know super well. I laughed it off!

Later, he was telling me the story of Anthony approaching him questioning his intentions with me.  I explained to this man, let’s call him Mike, that my intention was not to hook up with anyone at the bar and that if he wanted to be friends, that I would be cool with that.  He seemed to get it!

Nope!  Everytime I see Mike at the bar, there is something more he needs to say about me wanting Anthony.  Even when I have told him numerous times that I have no intentions of ever doing anything with Anthony.  And I have no intentions of ever doing anything with Mike. Meaning no relationship with either person.

Let me tell you, I am so annoyed by this whole situation.  Mike actually goes around the bar talking to people I don’t even know about me and the person I supposedly have a crush on.  This guy has some issues!

I don’t normally enjoy writing about negative situations that are occurring, but I need to vent.  Not only that, I am sure I am not the only person something like this has happened to. You tell someone something, he has no reason not to believe you, but then he continues to bring it up week after week because he doesn’t believe you.  I am not in a relationship with this man, and I don’t want to be, but he isn’t getting it. I tell him over and over again that I only want to be friends, still not getting it. What can you do?

This is what I did.  I became very assertive with him and told him that I only wanted to be cool with him.  If he was good with that, then great. If not, I am good with him staying away from me.  Hopefully he finally got it, and if not, I guess I will be saying that over and over again too.  I don’t need that drama! And I am guessing, he is very used to being part of it. I am also guessing that he has been lied to a lot in the past.

I have nothing to lie about; I am grown!