Not A One Date Go To The Bedroom Kinda Person

Throughout the last post I discussed the pros and cons of sleeping with someone on the first date, mostly cons.  Now, I want to focus on why I choose not to have sex on the first, second, third, fourth dates.

I have the mindset that if I were to have sex right away with someone that they would lose respect for me.  That they would have gotten what they wanted and then what is the point of sticking around? Also, how would they view me after that?  I feel that they wouldn’t take the time to get to know me. Now, could this be different for a man that is super committed to find his person?  That is possible!

I feel like this is similar to the thoughts men have when women approach them.  Don’t get me wrong here, because I too am all about women being powerful, and at the same time, I have witnessed the difference in how men respond when they approach women versus the women approaching  men. When men are interested and approach, they are super into these people and try their best to impress. There is a chase at that point. It seems like men really like the chase! When women approach, the men already know what the women are thinking and then the men don’t put as much effort into the interaction.  They already know that the women are attracted to them.

So, am I saying that you should never approach a man?  Not at all. What I am saying is, be smart about it. Drop something and act like you didn’t notice, so that he can point it out to you, starting a conversation.  Or leave your jacket on a chair at the bar right next to him. You could even ask him if he would watch it for a second while you get some cash to pay for your drink quick.  Get creative!

What other ideas do you have to help a man feel a bit more comfortable starting a conversation with you?

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